Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Health and Dating Bullshit

I've been officially single for a month now, and I'll tell you right now, online dating is the worst. Collarspace remains the cesspit of the BDSM dating scene. I've already been told I'm untwue and been offered to be swept off to Finland for the slave life of my dreams. OkCupid isn't proving any more fruitful. It's full of guilt trips, sexual solicitations, and red herrings. I've discovered, however, that I'm apparently more attractive than I think. I just wish men would read a bit better.

On a positive note, for you guys, I'm going to start posting my fail messages for your viewing enjoyment. Collarspace is known for its gems and it's only fair that I share them with you. 

I realize I've been neglectful of late. I'm getting the depression stuff under a bit better control, but I've been concentrating heavily on improving my health. My lipid levels dropped, but not enough, so I'm doing my best to bring it down naturally without the help of medication. I'm also attempting to build core strength to be able to do a belly dance workshop in October with the fabulous Ruby Beh on floor work. 

I've met my primary weight goal, so now it's time to move to the next stage. I've lost about 35 lbs and am shooting to lose 40 more. I'll see how I feel then, but right now, that's my end goal. To help me along with this, I've taken up Pilates and bought myself a Fitbit. I was doing pretty well just calculating on my own, but I really like the calorie calculation on this thing, as it feels more accurate than the standardized numbers on MyFitnessPal. I can sync it with MFP as well, so I no longer have to manually log exercises there. 

I've also started a fitness group on Fetlife to help with motivation and such. If you're interested in joining, I'd welcome any new members. It's woefully small right now. 

I really hate looking for a partner. Searching is exhausting and so disappointing most of the time, but I have to have faith that the right one is out there for me. Maybe God just wants me to improve myself a little bit first. I'm trying to make better choices, and not make bad decisions in the dating arena. 

I think I'll post my collarfails on Fridays. Stay tuned for that!

Also, I planted potatoes! Send my potato babies good thoughts!

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  1. Sorry to hear things have been so bad for you but beautiful to hear you're getting better. I can imagine how difficult it is to find someone, but I myself am a great believer in 'it will happen when it's suppose to happen'.
    I look forward to reading the collarfails :)

    Rebel xox

    1. I got a few good gems just this morning. As one of my old play partners said "My milkshake brings all the serial killers to the yard."

  2. Looking forward to reading about your fails in messages, I've been on OKC and POF now and it's woefully interesting.
    Maybe I should try Collarspace, but it doesn't sound as if that's any better from your post

    1. I remember POF from several years ago. CS is like the POF of BDSM, only more gross, I think. If nothing else, it's good for a laugh. They do have chatrooms as well, if that's your thing.

  3. Sorry to hear you have not been feeling great. Sounds like you are making fab progress on the healthy lifestyle front though.